Hmmm people often say they want to find themselves…? Like there is this concrete ‘self’ behind the cupboard or hidden in the sock drawer just waiting to be found. Or is it hiding someplace between our heartbeats and our ego, or squashed in the darkest corner of our busy overworked brains.. Sounds simple really, just get out the GPS find ‘our true selves’ and we are good to go.
After much searching and contemplation I have come to believe that there is no fixed, tangible, constant ‘self’ to be found. It is a pointless and fruitless search as nothing is ever really fixed. Our personal narratives, cells, and thoughts that make us who we are – they are constantly changing.
Our culture may gives us titles, jobs and labels to define ourselves but perhaps this habitual identifying of the ‘self is actually self limiting. If we take the opportunity to step outside of that and accept that we are ever changing .. we may discover that we can change… we can create and recreate the self we wish to be any – at every moment. When we allow life to move into and through us without the need to fixate on an end…perhaps we can rest more comfortably with the flux of everyday life.
Life, like love is messy but if you can accept the imperfectness of it, you may just finds it expands deliciously.
Me – I try to suck up the nectar, squeeze the juice out with pleasure and spit out the seeds – of course sometimes a seed ‘will’ get stuck between your teeth but that’s the process of love… that’s the ongoing process of being in every moment ‘my authentic self’ … and it tastes good!
(remember eventually even stuck seeds get dislodged!)
Fro x
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